I have written the letter that I will give to my husband to read about my sexual abuse as a teen. I have edited it. I have asked him when would be a good time to have him read something important and at first he said in about a month and then felt worried and wanted to read it sooner. He said he has a feeling he knows what it is about. Anyway, for me it feels like the cat is almost out of the bag.
I did not expect to feel so scared to do this. I am afraid that he will not want me anymore, or treat me differently. I am afraid I will hurt him with this. Or I am afraid that he will react in a way that makes me distrust him.
What is strange is I KNOW I was molested on several occasions but I still fall into a pattern of thinking "its not a big deal" or "I could have prevented it". I read up on sexual abuse and my symptoms keep leaping out at me. I hate that I have harbored so much shame and guilt for so long. I hate that I confused molestation with every doctor I went to and felt molested there. I hate that all my anger, confusion, and depression was treated with pills instead of counseling. I hate that I never trusted anyone to tell them and no one ever asked. I hate that it is only now that I am realizing that what happened was not okay, and that I shouldn't feel the way I do.
I am afraid that I will tell him all this and he will not want me anymore. That he didn't sign up for this. That he will be mad at me the way I was afraid my parents would have been.
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